“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ― Brené Brown
I am of the opinion that being honest about our frailty, our weakness, our vulnerabilities is part of what makes us strong in the end. Embracing our brokenness is an element of what actually makes us whole. Admitting that we don’t ‘have it all together’ is actually a crucial part of what God may want to do to ‘bring it all together’. When you live under Grace, strength and competency is not a requirement. #thankGod
Why pretend? Why put on a false-self just to please others and their judgment of you? Why show others an imposter that’s not the real you? If they do return the affirmation you crave they still aren’t affirming the real you; just the imposter you put out there for them to accept. If it’s not you, it won’t satisfy, you will be left in the same discontentment of your folly. It’s not strong to pretend, it’s a fearful reaction to potential rejection.
You want to be a strong leader? Act powerfully, and it starts with living with, in and through your own vulnerability. People aren’t looking for leaders who play ‘make believe’ about their real selves, they are looking for the compelling experience of raw authenticity and it’s a rare thing. People need a leader they can relate to but are living beyond them so that they can lead them to a land they’ve not yet been. If you are pretending about your own self, as Brennan Manning puts it: ‘you are handing out travel brochures to places you’ve never been.’
There’s a beauty and a strength in brokenness. It requires inner strength and confidence to admit weakness, to risk rejection, to put our real selves ‘out there’. It requires that you are rooted in another place than the affection of your followers, it requires that your identity is rooted somewhere else than in the acceptance of others. It’s a confidence in who you are and who you belong to no matter what the crowds say. It’s a place of raw, holy and Broken Strength.
If you learn to live there, there is nothing that can move you. Nothing. Anchor down in Broken Strength.