“Oh, my life is changing everyday,
In every possible way.
And oh, my dreams, it’s never quite as it seems,
Never quite as it seems.”
Here’s the thing about Dreams . . . they may or may not come true. The reaching, the striving and the yearning, I think that’s just part of the human story. Beauty and suffering are often companions along the same path, it’s just a matter of making friends with both travel-mates. In my 41 year old mind now, I understand that journey matters. The process of trying matters, it’s where some of the beauty is. Failing is not so much about the fact you didn’t end up where you intended, it’s about the fact that you had the guts to give it a go in the first place. Every time you try, every time you get up after you’ve been knocked down, every time you have the courage to give it a go . . . well in a way you’ve already won.
A lot of people talk about dreaming, but life has a way of beating that out of you. I struggle with a cynical mind and a realist’s perspective often, I don’t get cajoled in with the flowery talk. I’m slow to get in the water, but when I’m in, I’m all the way in. At 41, I have no clearer understanding of who I am and what I’m supposed to be doing than what I did when I was 21. I just try a lot slower now ;-).
But I haven’t let setbacks, unmet goals, unrealized dreams, shattered hopes or disappointing outcomes despair my next attempt. If there is breath in the lungs, there is yet another day to keep trying. I suppose this is my dark way of saying to you (and really to me), please keep trying. Don’t give up, don’t give in to despair. Get up because getting up is it’s own reward. You don’t know if a stone has been rolled away, you don’t know if the opportunity you’ve longed for is at your doorstep, you don’t know if all your hard work will finally pay off. But you have to try, you have to get up. Make a choice today/tonight, to try again. Don’t give up, dreams are worth whatever shreds of hope you have left. It is not just a human story, it’s your story. Live it.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.