“Seeking a path more purposeful than accumulating wealth, holding power, winning at competition, or securing a career, I had started to understand that it is indeed possible to live a life other than one’s own. Fearful that I was doing just that – but uncertain about the deeper, truer life I sensed hidden inside of me, uncertain whether it was real or trustworthy or within reach – I would snap awake in the middle of the night and stare long hours at the ceiling.” – Parker Palmer
Is the life you are living the highest version of you?
I truly enjoy pub culture. I like to be in the places where the crossroads of life and my neighbors are intersecting. It’s been almost 20 years since I was a vocational pastor but it is in these simple and human spaces in my community where I can perhaps be my best self as a sort of pastoral voice. This past Saturday evening I found myself in an hour or longer conversation with a 31 yr. old young Dad of 2 who was finishing up a 13 hr. work day and in our conversation began lamenting that he thinks he’s doing it wrong. He is making a lot of $ for 60 hrs. of work a week but he’s missing his kids lives altogether. Big house and new cars but cancelled vacations because work owned his time. He was asking himself deep questions if the rat race he was running was worth it in the end. He gave me permission to speak into his life and we talked about the freedom of living more simply, that meaning is created it isn’t bought and the reality that we are going to die, the only thing left is to decide how we want to live. No one can choose that for us. If we let work choose it, we won’t live the life we were created to embody. We became friends and hope to continue the conversation, he said “I don’t meet people like you.” I think that was a compliment, I pray the deep questions haunted his dreams. 😉
What are the questions that keep you up at night? What is bubbling below the surface of your true identity trying to break through the ice of your surface self you let everyone else see? Are you living a life to make others happy, enslaved to the unspoken oughts and shoulds of their judgments and perceptions? In your resting times, do you experience freedom and peace, or does your heart and mind race in anxiety? Are you asking yourself the big questions about life? We only get one.
Let your life speak, seek the highest version of your true self. That is where freedom, truth, power and peace come from. I’m always glad to have that conversation.